When bargaining backfires

Lamb, Marguerite
December 2006
Parenting;Dec2006/Jan2007, Vol. 20 Issue 11, p178
The article presents tips for parents on asking their child to behave or to do something without making deals. Rewards and punishments will only get a child to behave in the short-term, according to Alfie Kohn, author of Unconditional Parenting. By preschool age, children can better weigh their options and are less likely to accept a deal. Explain why a demand is important. Try to make a chore enjoyable.


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